Control
Control “I feel guilty. I should forgive him, but I’m also hurt about what happened.” “I feel shame that I didn’t spend time with him, but I’m overwhelmed when I do.” “I feel fear when I speak up, but I’m angry when I don’t.” We cannot look at one part of what we are...
Should I Just Give In to What My Child Wants?
Should I Just Give In to What My Child Wants? If you’ve been reading what I share or talking with me(whether in or out of formal settings), you’re probably attempting to think about your triggers and understand where your child is coming from. You’re trying really...
We Must Create Safety to Dissolve Sibling Rivalry
We Must Create Safety to Dissolve Sibling Rivalry One of the biggest questions I hear is “how do you know whether to intervene between sibling rivalry or allow them to sort things out on their own?” On the one hand, we know that by allowing them to resolve their own...
A Simplified Way to Understand a Trigger
A Simplified Way to Understand a Trigger Real life, real-time, everyday triggers you might experience might be thoughts like: “He made me so angry.” “She doesn’t listen to me. It’s so frustrating.” “He’s disrespectful.” “She’s ignoring me.” Some days you catch them,...
Are We Living a Rat Race or a Life?
Are We Living a Rat Race or a Life? Without considering our spiritual nature, living in the world of form can feel like an endless, self-defeating, pointless pursuit. It’s hard to believe this at first. Believe me, I know. I lived in this rat race for most of my...
Jian’s Doing Kumon Again!
Jian’s Doing Kumon Again! You may remember the story I shared during our Thriving in the Truth: Turning Triggers into Clarity and Growth workshop, about my core belief of “not being smart enough” and how that core belief ultimately had me sabotaging my...
Being Fast-Paced, Bold and Intense Is My Nature
Being Fast-Paced, Bold and Intense Is My Nature Here’s a story… Many of you know that I am an event designer. Last year I was working with a bride whose uncle was quite involved in the design process. He was my main point of contact, so naturally, we spoke often. I...
You’re Not Who You Think You Are
You’re Not Who You Think You Are I was thinking about a conversation that I’ve been having with the moms in my FREE Facebook Group about conditioning. It led me to open up a conversation about, and remind myself about the meaning of, the widely used idea or...
What is Your Core Inner Belief?
What is Your Core Inner Belief? One of the things a lot of us tell ourselves are: I am not good enough; I’m a failure, a loser. Everyone is better than me. I am bad; I don’t deserve anything. Everything I do is wrong. I am unlovable; I don’t fit in. I’m unattractive....
The One Thing I Have to Consciously Work On, Like ALL.THE.TIME.
The One Thing I Have to Consciously Work On, Like ALL.THE.TIME. If there is one thing I consciously work on, like all the time, it’s trying to honor Jian’s choices. At times it may appear to some that I’m just giving in and parenting lazily – but I assure you,...
