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Last time, we talked about the ego mind and how its instinct causes us to react to feelings that haven\u2019t been processed. But how do we process those feelings so that we don\u2019t react that way?<\/span><\/p>\n The below steps are an example of what it looks like to process what you believe is the truth in order to become curious.<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/pexels-krivec-ales-551853-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.2″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.4.2″ text_font_size=”19px”]<\/p>\n What happened:<\/b><\/p>\n Four-Year-Old: Pushes his sister for taking his toy.<\/span><\/p>\n Mom\u2019s Interpretation: If you push her again, I will take away your toy.<\/span><\/p>\n Four-Year-Old: Pushes again.<\/span><\/p>\n Mom\u2019s Projection: Takes away the toy.<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/pexels-june-1767434-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.2″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.4.2″ text_font_size=”19px”]<\/p>\n What is perceived in mom\u2019s body:<\/b><\/p>\n Trigger: Body’s memory of how pushing was viewed\/experienced in childhood; for ex. Pushing was ignored or labeled as someone who is bossy or even violent.<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/pexels-pixabay-260954-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.2″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.4.2″ text_font_size=”19px”]<\/p>\n In the turbulence of experiencing my triggers and witnessing Jian\u2019s, I hit rock bottom and began to seek deeper answers.<\/span><\/p>\n I learned how to sit with my feelings and watch my thoughts. I learned how to practice not attaching to the way I was taught to think about things and to explore how my inner child may have perceived situations.<\/span><\/p>\n I began to ask myself all sorts of questions, like:<\/span><\/p>\n Why is this parenting experience so hard?<\/span><\/p>\n Why is it so hard for me to express myself?<\/span><\/p>\n Why doesn\u2019t Jian see my purest intentions?<\/span><\/p>\n Why am I so angry?<\/span><\/p>\n Why is Jian so sensitive?<\/span><\/p>\n Why do I feel the need to force him to socialize at 18 months?<\/span><\/p>\n Who would he be if he didn\u2019t socialize?<\/span><\/p>\n This curiosity led me to enter into a journey back to myself. It revealed to me how judgmental my ego mind was. How trapped and confined my thoughts were. Most things in my life seemed to have predefined, absolute truths, such as:<\/span><\/p>\n I turned out fine. I\u2019ll follow what my mom says. She knows.<\/span><\/p>\n People don\u2019t understand me.<\/span><\/p>\n Jian is too young to understand what he needs.<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m angry because no one listens or cares.<\/span><\/p>\n Jian is so sensitive. I can teach him how to be strong.<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m not forcing him. I\u2019m doing what\u2019s best for him.<\/span><\/p>\n If he doesn\u2019t socialize, he will become lonely.<\/span><\/p>\n And when I thought about these ideas a little more deeply, I realized I didn\u2019t even agree with them. They didn\u2019t feel like the truth at all. They didn\u2019t represent who I really am.<\/span><\/p>\n Like me, you intuitively know something in your life feels off.\u00a0 You\u2019re acting in a way that doesn\u2019t exactly align with how you want to act.\u00a0 This creates anxiety in you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n So you wonder where the disconnect is. Who\u2019s right? Your intuition and how you <\/span>want<\/b> to act,\u00a0 or how you think you <\/span>should<\/b> act?<\/span><\/p>\n Understanding the gap between your intuition and your thoughts will help you bridge that gap.\u00a0 In bridging the gap, you\u2019ll learn what your truth is, and you\u2019ll learn who you are. And you\u2019ll dissolve the anxiety, leaving you acting in ways that align you to your truth.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/pexels-martin-damboldt-814499-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.2″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.4.2″ text_font_size=”19px”]<\/p>\n Give it a try.\u00a0 Use the prompts below to help you deconstruct your own values:<\/span><\/p>\n A recurring thought that gives me anxiety is \u2026?<\/span><\/p>\n Is my thought true?<\/span><\/p>\n Is it 100% true?<\/span><\/p>\n How do I react when I believe that thought?<\/span><\/p>\n Who would I be without that thought?<\/span><\/p>\n Turn the thought around. Does it resonate? 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