[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.4.2″ background_color=”#a397a7″ custom_padding=”7px|||||”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.4.2″ width=”100%” saved_tabs=”all” collapsed=”off”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.4.2″][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/jillna-flower-topper-01.png” _builder_version=”4.4.2″ max_width=”350px” module_alignment=”center”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_post_title meta=”off” featured_image=”off” _builder_version=”4.4.2″ title_font=”Kurale|||on|||||” title_text_align=”center” title_font_size=”40px”][\/et_pb_post_title][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/How-can-i-get-himher-to-do-the-work-with-me.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.2″ hover_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.4.2″ width=”100%”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.4.2″][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.4.2″ text_font_size=”19px” header_font_size=”45px” header_2_font=”|||on|||||” header_2_font_size=”32px”]<\/p>\n
But Jilna, how does Conscious Parenting work, if my husband doesn\u2019t heal himself?<\/b><\/p>\n
One of the biggest hurdles we can encounter is that of interacting with others while we are healing. Now that we\u2019re doing the work, we can see what can help those around us.<\/span><\/p>\n But how can we \u2018get\u2019 them to heal or understand that they need healing? If they did the work, not only would it help us connect and communicate effectively with them, but it would also help them feel light and happy.<\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/jilnajasani.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/pexels-sebastian-voortman-165505-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.2″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.4.2″ text_font_size=”19px”]<\/p>\n The fact is, you can\u2019t \u2018get\u2019 them to heal. Healing is a personally chosen journey. You can inspire and influence them through your own healing and change in behaviors, but you can\u2019t make them do anything. Perhaps the art is in getting them curious about what you\u2019re doing, which would then get them curious about exploring their own journey.<\/span><\/p>\n We might also stress about the concern we have around what they may be feeling because of the truth or reality we\u2019ve shared with them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s true.\u00a0 He is tantruming, because we are tantruming.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cThis isn\u2019t about her whining.\u00a0 There is something about us, that is making him\/her whine.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cHe isn\u2019t mis-behaving.\u00a0 We are.\u00a0 And we need to understand how.\u00a0 Are you willing?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n Let\u2019s face it, it\u2019s never easy to own or take responsibility for ourselves, is it?<\/span><\/p>\n So instead of \u2018getting\u2019 him\/her to do the work with you, how would it feel to start by inquiring within yourself\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n